My husband and I have made a pact during each of my pregnancies to keep the name of the child a secret until he/she is born. It drives everyone crazy.
We get tired of answering the question? “Do you have a name yet?”
“Yes, we have a name, but we’re keeping it a secret.”
“Yes, but we’re waiting to meet her.”
Both true statements.
It’s awkward to not be able to tell people. I don’t think they understand, but I’m glad we’ve done it. It give us time on our own to feel 100 percent certain that we know the name is right. It’s OUR decision. Without any outside pressure.
If I let friends and family weight in I guarantee my kids would have different names than they do. Not because they have bad names, but because it would be hard to find a name that pleases everyone. By keeping it between the two of us it gives us quiet reflection on the certainty of the name.
And, who says anything about a baby’s name to a new parent once they’ve met the child?